One of my fashion and life inspirations is my grandmother – the picture on the left was taken ca. 1943 in Montecatini Terme, Italy (Near Tuscany). She had recenly been released from a displaced person’s camp after fighting in the war to protect her family – This is a real woman…AND, she looks MARVELOUS!
In today’s world of never wanting to offend anyone and agreeing with everyone, I must finally share some TRUTH. I read the same magazines that many of you read, both men’s and women’s, and I am so tired of seeing articles that tell people everyone is wild and crazy, there is no absolute truth and celebrities are the fashion center of the world. This is my attempt to point out a few obvious facts that everyone needs to observe in today’s Politically Correct atmosphere that is leading America and America’s youth astray.
Some of the best teachers I had growing up and still have today, led by example – One of them being my mother. She works hard, provides for her family, still cooks amazing meals, lends a helping hand to many and takes the time to make certain her hair is ready everyday! She looks after her granddaughter while looking fabulous in current clothing trends that are up to date. She also believes in saying yes m am and no sir and teaching manners and respect for ones elders. She is an example of a mother who still believes in a few “old fashioned ideas.” She clearly had a fantastic example in my grandmother and followed her lead!
The best teachers lead by example, and that will always be the case. So each of us should examine WHOSE EXAMPLE we are following. Do we follow the crowd, start to dress as though we are 20 when we are 40, or like we forgot that sexy does not always mean being scantily clad. Fashion is not about stilettos, miniskirts, pants too tight to sit down in or the least amount of clothing possible. The real men that I have met and dressed still love the idea of MYSTERY. When you can see the entire package, so can everyone else. So many broken hearted women share stories of relationships that have failed when they first decided to be what they aren’t, or dress like someone they thought they wanted to be. This is true for women and men, ages 12 to 70. Let’s be real for once, it is still OK to dress and be exciting yet not share all you have with all who look. Just last week I was reading a fashion consultants comments about marriage and she wrote that virginity is overrated and women and men should explore as many partners as possible. Well, by looking at the way she dressed and the two husbands she had already had, I would suggest perhaps she pick another line of work or try a different plan that builds intimacy over more than a drink and 24 hours. My personal disclaimer is that I am nowhere near perfect and am truly the least judgmental person The truth is that I have made enough mistakes large and small along the way and learned valuable lessons to know what I’m saying is true!
Women, listen to me! It’s great to be sexy and it’s wonderful to be admired. We all want to look great and everyone loves to be beautiful, intelligent and wanted. You do not have to take off your clothes and believe the lies of faster to bed, quicker to marriage. The best marriages and best relationships are built over time. Sexual clothing and sexual actions do not mean sexual success or a happy relationship. This is true for daughters and sons as well. Parents and older adults need to start giving our youth an example they can follow. I have read that the best way to learn about REAL LOVE is to observe it in the ones we admire and respect. Parents and adults, that means US! Traditional values are not dead; they are just no longer taught in schools and rarely observed in movies and TV. So we, those in the fashion industry, and adults, need to start setting a real example for others to see and follow. Men and women can be very sexy, their clothing can say “I am wonderful come and meet me” and their fashion can say “I know who I am, I love who I am, and I look MARVELOUS.” Mothers and fathers can start telling their daughters and sons the value of waiting on Mr. Right and Ms. Amazing, there is no hurry. Even if they didn’t do that themselves just because we make mistakes does not mean we can’t teach a better way or lead someone down a superior path than one we went on. We are meant to learn from the mistakes in our past and teach people we love from them. Each one of us was created by an amazing creator for a purpose. I can assure you that the purpose is not to dress in a manner that says, “I do not love me, so will you please come and love me” or ” I am too hot for my own good so you should come and adore how I look and forget about knowing the real me inside.”
I love clothing, I love fashion, I love personal branding and helping my clients discover the beauty deep inside. I love sharing my ideas and tricks of the trade with male and female clients. I am excited about our youth today, excited about the traditional values that go against the common idea of “Everything Goes.” Fashion is all about making a statement, but unlike some fashion consultants who would have you believe that statement is about what someone else tells you to believe and impressing everyone else that statement should be about WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU BELEIVE.
Success starts at the center of the heart. If you can’t love you, then you can never love someone else. If you are 40, then you’re gorgeous at 40 – you do not have to dress like you are 20. If you’re 20, you can be sexy and exciting and still not freeze in cold weather because you have nothing on. Men can be men and still “Dress for success, open doors and represent themselves as a man.” I am so tired of being politically correct about fashion. We can lead by example, we can be the best teacher, and we can learn from others, but most of all WE CAN BE TRUE TO WHO WE REALLY ARE!!! I look forward to helping you and serving your fashion and image needs. I am excited by the revival of real fashion and helping women and men create a statement that sons and daughters can emulate and everyone can be proud of. You will never make everyone happy, but then again YOU DON’T HAVE TO! Please call me if I can serve you, your business or a special person in your life.