“Sweet 16 and Never Been Kissed: Thank God”
My disclaimer is that I am not a prude or some Victorian princess that says no dancing and no hand holding and by all means everyone needs to go to boarding school. I am a California girl who grew up on the beach and enjoyed every bit of the fun that High School and College had to offer. I admit I have spent my time in front of the mirror – and like all young girls and women today, I was always worried about how I looked and wanted to make certain that I “fit in.” Looking back, all I can say is thanks mom for the tight reins you put me under as a teenager, and for saying I love you by sometimes saying NO.
Advertisements bombard our young girls and boys with clothing images that say the best look is a sexual look. Especially for our young daughters! Why is it that fashion trends are so provocative and who in their right mind dresses a 12 year old like they are 16, or a 16 year old like they are 22? You know when we sow the seeds of invitation and excitement; we should be prepared for the seeds to become the plants of disaster and enticement. Parents, wake up!!!
Wall Street Ad Agencies and todays so called fashion professionals are wrong. We do not need to let our girls dress beyond their age and more than that, beyond their maturity. Fashion for our young girls is supposed to express confidence, style and beauty – not invitation. Young women have enough challenges in today’s world, and we do not need to send our daughters into the world in outfits that “fit in” and then become concerned because the 18 year old wants to date our 15 year old, nor should we be surprised when our 12 year olds can flirt like 20 year olds. The wrong fashion makes a statement for our girls’ long before they are ready or can really understand the consequences of looking and acting like they are adults. The results can be disastrous.
When I came along, we all giggled at the first kiss behind the door, or when our friends mentioned the infamous “Spin the Bottle Game” in middle school or beyond. Today, “A kiss is not but a kiss.” I have attached an alarming article that every parent needs to read and every daughter or son should learn about. Cancer and your child, something from the casual and seemingly innocent kiss, is not longer just a kiss! I am not an alarmist and I understand the fun of first dates and even the first kissâ€¦BUT to my fellow parents – we need to be informed. Let’s not put our daughters at a disadvantage by dressing them to “fit in” or to match the latest ads by Abercrombie and Fitch. We have a responsibility to young people today, and that is to say, how you dress is important to your reputation and your health.’ Our girls do not need to head out to the door each day dressed like an invitation card that says “Get to know me physically.” MTV, VH1 and the world are wrong. Our daughters and our sons are worthy of our protection, so let’s start with how we dress them. As the article shows, we need to talk with our kids and tell them that safe sex is not possible and the best bet is no sex until marriage. The best way to say I love you is not with your body. As you will read, a KISS is NOT BUT A KISS. I love fashion, I love great clothes and I love our children. Dress yours appropriately and talk to them about the world’s false messages. Let’s mold our daughters and sons to respect one another in every way.
Here is an excerpt from an article in Men’s Health (August 2011), “The New Sex Cancer”
“However, simply kissing someone who has oral HPV can also lead to infection, according to many researchers who believe that it’s possible for HPV to be transmitted through saliva.”
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